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How to Build Retail Customer Loyalty Through Connection

How to Build Retail Customer Loyalty Through Connection

The most valuable part of any business is the customer, so it’s no wonder that Get to Know Your Customers Day is celebrated not just annually, but quarterly. This year’s first installment is coming up January 18, offering a timely reminder of why understanding and engaging with your customers is so important — especially in a competitive sector like the pleasure industry.

Adult retail customers are in the market for more than just products. They’re looking for experiences that are welcoming, inclusive and empowering. Trust, comfort and discretion drive their decision-making. That’s why knowing who your customers are, what they want, how they shop and what makes them feel valued isn’t just good practice; it’s essential for standing out in a crowded market and establishing meaningful, lasting relationships that generate loyalty and repeat business.

Getting to know your customers is about creating a culture of appreciation and showing them they’re more than just a transaction.

Let’s dive into some strategies for creating an environment where customers feel seen, heard and motivated to return.

Personalize the Experience

Customers appreciate interactions that feel tailored to their needs. Even small gestures in this direction can create a big impact. To that end:

  • Use purchase history and preferences to craft personalized “thank you” messages or product recommendations. For example, send loyal customers a “We Thought You’d Love This” email featuring curated picks based on their past orders.
  • Train in-store teams to recognize and greet repeat shoppers with genuine enthusiasm. A simple “I remember you loved [product] last time — how was it?” creates a sense of connection.

Host Events That Foster Connection

In-person and virtual events offer unique opportunities to engage customers while learning more about their preferences.

  • Organize a “Getting to Know You” day where customers can provide feedback, explore new products and enjoy exclusive perks.
  • Partner with manufacturers to host interactive workshops or demonstrations. For example, a “Couples Connection” night could showcase popular Valentine’s Day items while inviting questions and conversations.
  • Use these events to collect insights, whether through casual conversations or structured surveys, to better understand what resonates with your audience.

Engage Digitally for Broader Reach

For ecommerce businesses or hybrid models, Get to Know Your Customers Day is the perfect chance to connect with online shoppers.

  • Launch a survey campaign to gather insights into what customers love about your store and what they’d like to see improved. Offer a small reward for participating, like a discount code.
  • Use social media polls or Q&A features to interact with followers. Asking “What’s your favorite product category?” or “What new features would make shopping easier?” provides valuable data while boosting engagement.
  • Highlight customer testimonials or spotlight regular shoppers to show appreciation and build community.

Empower Staff to Drive Connection

A strong customer connection starts with a motivated and informed team. The better your staff understands your customers and feels empowered to engage with them, the better everyone’s overall experience will be. Steps for helping your team connect with shoppers can include:

  • Recognition: Acknowledge your team’s contributions to customer relationships, whether through shoutouts in team meetings or small rewards for providing outstanding service.
  • Training: Equip your staff with tools to better understand customers, from product knowledge sessions to workshops on empathetic communication. Confident, informed employees create positive experiences that customers remember.
  • Empower feedback loops: Encourage employees to share their observations about customer behavior and preferences. Their insights can provide valuable data for improving operations.

Strengthen Manufacturer Partnerships

Standing right behind you and your staff, playing a critical role in helping retailers connect with customers, are manufacturers. Here are some ways to take full advantage of your manufacturing partners’ resources and expertise to enhance your efforts, particularly during events like Get to Know Your Customers Day:

  • Leverage educational tools: Use manufacturer’ product training videos, marketing kits or expert-led sessions to bolster your team’s ability to inform and engage.
  • Co-host events: Collaborate on workshops or in-store demonstrations that showcase the unique features of specific products. That way, customers gain knowledge and manufacturers build brand affinity.
  • Create co-branded offers: Partner with manufacturers to develop exclusive promotions or bundles tailored to customer preferences.

Build Relationships That Last

Ultimately, getting to know your customers is about creating a culture of appreciation and showing them they’re more than just a transaction. Get to Know Your Customers Day is an excellent starting point for accomplishing that, but the real power lies in making these practices a year-round focus. Understanding and catering to your customers is an ongoing process that involves listening, adapting and staying proactive.

Loyalty programs are one great way to keep the conversation going. Go beyond traditional discounts to offer meaningful perks, like early access to new products, invitations to exclusive events, or personalized recommendations. Similarly, follow-ups after purchases — “How are you enjoying your new…?”— demonstrate care and build trust.

Get to Know Your Customers Day isn’t just a checkbox on the calendar. It’s a chance to foster deeper connections and set the stage for long-term loyalty and growth, whether through in-store interactions, online campaigns or behind-the-scenes empowerment of your team. Loyalty is even more critical given the unpredictable ebb and flow of today’s economy. When consumers tighten spending, they become even more selective, gravitating only toward brands that provide exceptional value and connection. As the pleasure industry continues to evolve, businesses that prioritize relationships and take the time to truly know their customers will be the ones that succeed.

Ian Kulp is Blush’s director of marketing and a passionate advocate for inclusivity in sexual health and wellness.

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